Everything Mom: We are in the same storm but not all in the same boat

I read an article this morning from Chloe Cuthbert who sited an article from an unknow author.

It struck a chord with me. Here it is below.

“I heard that we are all in the same boat, but it’s not like that. We are in the same storm, but not in the same boat. Your ship could be shipwrecked, and mine might not be

Or vice versa

For some, quarantine is optimal. A moment of reflections, of re-connection, easy in flip-flops, with a cocktail or coffee. For others, this is a desperate financial and family crisis.

For some that live alone, they’re facing endless loneliness. While for others it is peace, rest, and time with their mother, father, sons and daughters.

With the $600 (US) weekly increase in unemployment, some are bringing in more money to their households than they were working.

Others are working more hours for less money, due to pay cuts or loss in commissioned sales.

Some families of four just received $3400 from the stimulus package, while other families of four saw $0.

Some were concerned about getting a certain candy for Easter, while others were concerned if there would be enough bread, milk, and eggs for the weekend.

Some want to go back to work because they don’t qualify for unemployment and are running out of money. Others want to kill those who break quarantine.

Some are at home spending two to three hours a day, helping their child with online schooling, while others are doing the same on top of a 10–12 hour work day.

Some have experienced the near death of the virus, some have already lost someone from it, and some are not sure if their loved ones are going to make it.

Others don’t believe this is a big deal.

Some have faith in God and expect miracles this year.

Others say the worst is yet to come.

We are not in the same boat. We are going through a time when our perceptions and needs are completely different.

Each of us will emerge, in our own way, from this storm. It is important to see beyond what is seen at first glance. Not just looking, actually seeing.

We are all on different ships during this storm, experiencing a very different journey. — Unknown Author


How often on social media have we been told to use this quarantine time to reflect and take time for ourselves? Be it to learn a new skill, listen to a podcast, get into shape, organize your home, or learn a new language…  And that advice sounds constructive- and surely at some point during some conversations with friends or family I might have suggested the same.  But, the reality is that we are not all in the same situation. 

We are in the same storm but We are not all in the same boat. 

As I watch this crisis unfold, I see wide gaps, and I think about …

- those on the frontlines who cannot be with their children at this time because it is simply too risky,
- or those out of a job,
- business owners whose doors are closed – temporarily or permanently - and are struggling to feed their families.
- those with no family nearby who find themselves alone and lonely.
- those who are hospitalized and cannot be visited by their loved ones. 
- and the most heartbreaking, those who have lost loved ones during this pandemic and were not able to say their last goodbyes…

Although it is the same crisis, we are all going through it very differently. 

We will all come out of this with different experiences and a different perspective on covid-19.  My one hope is that we emerge from this pandemic with more kindness, more compassion for each other.  We simply do not know what the person in the next boat is going through.

Antonella Argento
Co-founder mlist (mummieslist) mymlist.com
Co-founder LYNQ (LoveYourselfNo Question) lynqlife.com